: Today’s Reflection is about gifts.
Several years ago, I was going to be away for about a week, and a friend wanted to stay at my place. Given that she was very generous to let me use her guestroom regularly (as I have been traveling to her area monthly for business), I was only delighted to reciprocate and let her use my place.
I came back home after she has already left, and encountered a few surprises. I could live with a dishwasher filled with unwashed dishes, mess at my computer desk (from trying to connect and make work a computer that was phased out and on the way to retirement), and a few other little things of a similar nature. The real problem was that my friend bought me a beautiful little framed picture, as a gift, and hang it on the wall – for me to see.
This last part sent me over the edge.
:: “The nourishment [of giving a gift] flows both ways. When we have fed the gift
:: with our labor and generosity, it grows and feeds us in return. The gift and its
:: bearers share a spirit which is kept alive by its motion among them, and which
:: in turn keeps them both alive.” - Lewis Hyde, “The Gift”
I did like the picture; this was not the problem. The problem was the way the gift was given, which I translated as “Here is a gift for you, Simon, and this is how it is to be used – in your place. Let me tell you where to hang it.”
Giving a gift, to me, means relinquishing all control as to how it will be used by the receiver of it. Letting it go, completely. As I am now finishing a 2-week trip, heading home, the whole notion of gifts comes to mind – as I was bringing some with me, and receiving others here. A true gift is one where there are no strings attached. A true gift is measured by its non-material “value” - which is a strange word to use in such context; perhaps “contribution” is a more fitting description of what we experience when we receive something from another. When a true gift is received, it moves one’s heart, revives the soul, delights the senses, and we end up feeling deeply touched.
:: “Gifts do not bring us attachment unless they move us. Manners or social pressure
:: may oblige us to those for whom we feel no true affection, but neither obligation
:: nor civility leads to lasting unions. It is when someone’s gifts stir us that we
:: are brought close, and what moves us, beyond the gift itself, is the promise (or
:: the fact) of transformation, friendship, and love.” - Lewis Hyde, “The Gift”
In this way, it almost doesn’t matter what the gift is anyway; what matters is that someone thought of us and chose to gift us with something. And, if the person has no attachment to what I am supposed to do with their gift, then there is also no problem with me passing it along to another; it perishes for the person who gives it away. It does bring in the notion that gifting is a process and a flow, moving the authentic experience of gifting on and on, never stopping, always nourishing and delighting all those involved.
:: “The gift is to the giver, and comes back most to him – it cannot fail...”
:: - Walt Whitman
And, as I write these words, I am thinking that it might be time to take the picture off the wall and gift it on.
A sunny week to you all, inside and out.
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31 March 2009
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: Today’s Reflection is about a story that crossed my path,
: “The Three Questions” by Leo Tolstoy. And even though it crossed
: my path a long time ago, it is somehow ever more relevant today.
Three Questions - by Leo Tolstoy
One day it occurred to a certain emperor that if he only knew the answers to three questions, he would never stray in any matter.
What is the best time to do each thing? Who are the most important people to work with? What is the most important thing to do at all times?
The emperor issued a decree throughout his kingdom announcing that whoever could answer the questions would receive a great reward. Many who read the decree made their way to the palace at once, each person with a different answer.
In reply to the first question, one person advised that the emperor make up a thorough time schedule, consecrating every hour, day, month, and year for certain tasks and then follow the schedule to the letter. Only then could he hope to do every task at the right time.
Another person replied that it was impossible to plan in advance and that the emperor should put all vain amusements aside and remain attentive to everything in order to know what to do at what time.
Someone else insisted that, by himself, the emperor could never hope to have all the foresight and competence necessary to decide when to do each and every task and what he really needed was to set up a Council of the Wise and then to act according to their advice.
Someone else said that certain matters required immediate decision and could not wait for consultation, but if he wanted to know in advance what was going to happen he should consult magicians and soothsayers.
The responses to the second question also lacked accord.
One person said that the emperor needed to place all his trust in administrators, another urged reliance on priests and monks, while others recommended physicians. Still others put their faith in warriors.
The third question drew a similar variety of answers. Some said science was the most important pursuit. Others insisted on religion. Yet others claimed the most important thing was military skill.
The emperor was not pleased with any of the answers, and no reward was given.
After several nights of reflection, the emperor resolved to visit a hermit who lived up on the mountain and was said to be an enlightened man. The emperor wished to find the hermit to ask him the three questions, though he knew the hermit never left the mountains and was known to receive only the poor, refusing to have anything to do with persons of wealth or power. So the emperor disguised himself as a simple peasant and ordered his attendants to wait for him at the foot of the mountain while he climbed the slope alone to seek the hermit.
Reaching the holy man's dwelling place, the emperor found the hermit digging a garden in front of his hut. When the hermit saw the stranger, he nodded his head in greeting and continued to dig. The labor was obviously hard on him. He was an old man, and each time he thrust his spade into the ground to turn the earth, he heaved heavily.
The emperor approached him and said, "I have come here to ask your help with three questions: When is the best time to do each thing? Who are the most important people to work with? What is the most important thing to do at all times?"
The hermit listened attentively but only patted the emperor on the shoulder and continued digging. The emperor said, "You must be tired. Here, let me give you a hand with that." The hermit thanked him, handed the emperor the spade, and then sat down on the ground to rest.
After he had dug two rows, the emperor stopped and turned to the hermit and repeated his three questions. The hermit still did not answer, but instead stood up and pointed to the spade and said, "Why don't you rest now? I can take over again." But the emperor continued to dig. One hour passed, then two. Finally the sun began to set behind the mountain. The emperor put down the spade and said to the hermit, "I came here to ask if you could answer my three questions. But if you can't give me any answer, please let me know so that I can get on may way home."
The hermit lifted his head and asked the emperor, "Do you hear someone running over there?" The emperor turned his head. They both saw a man with a long white beard emerge from the woods. He ran wildly, pressing his hands against a bloody wound in his stomach. The man ran toward the emperor before falling unconscious to the ground, where he lay groaning. Opening the man's clothing, the emperor and hermit saw that the man had received a deep gash. The emperor cleaned the wound thoroughly and then used his own shirt to bandage it, but the blood completely soaked it within minutes. He rinsed the shirt out and bandaged the wound a second time and continued to do so until the flow of blood had stopped.
At last the wounded man regained consciousness and asked for a drink of water. The emperor ran down to the stream and brought back a jug of fresh water. Meanwhile, the sun had disappeared and the night air had begun to turn cold. The hermit gave the emperor a hand in carrying the man into the hut where they laid him down on the hermit's bed. The man closed his eyes and lay quietly. The emperor was worn out from the long day of climbing the mountain and digging the garden. Leaning against the doorway, he fell asleep. When he rose, the sun had already risen over the mountain. For a moment he forgot where he was and what he had come here for. He looked over to the bed and saw the wounded man also looking around him in confusion. When he saw the emperor, he stared at him intently and then said in a faint whisper, "Please forgive me."
"But what have you done that I should forgive you?" the emperor asked.
"You do not know me, your majesty, but I know you. I was your sworn enemy, and I had vowed to take vengeance on you, for during the last war you killed my brother and seized my property. When I learned that you were coming alone to the mountain to meet the hermit, I resolved to surprise you on your way back to kill you. But after waiting a long time there was still no sign of you, and so I left my ambush in order to seek you out. But instead of finding you, I came across your attendants, who recognized me, giving me this wound. Luckily, I escaped and ran here. If I hadn't met you I would surely be dead by now. I had intended to kill you, but instead you saved my life! I am ashamed and grateful beyond words. If I live, I vow to be your servant for the rest of my life, and I will bid my children and grandchildren to do the same. Please grant me your forgiveness."
The emperor was overjoyed to see that he was so easily reconciled with a former enemy. He not only forgave the man but promised to return all the man's property and to send his own physician and servants to wait on the man until he was completely healed. After ordering his attendants to take the man home, the emperor returned to see the hermit. Before returning to the palace the emperor wanted to repeat his three questions one last time. He found the hermit sowing seeds in the earth they had dug the day before.
The hermit stood up and looked at the emperor. "But your questions have already been answered."
"How's that?" the emperor asked, puzzled.
"Yesterday, if you had not taken pity on my age and given me a hand with digging these beds, you would have been attacked by that man on your way home. Then you would have deeply regretted not staying with me. Therefore the most important time was the time you were digging in the beds, the most important person was myself, and the most important pursuit was to help me. Later, when the wounded man ran up here, the most important time was the time you spent dressing his wound, for if you had not cared for him he would have died and you would have lost the chance to be reconciled with him. Likewise, he was the most important person, and the most important pursuit was taking care of his wound. Remember that there is only one important time and is Now. The present moment is the only time over which we have dominion. The most important person is always the person with whom you are, who is right before you, for who knows if you will have dealings with any other person in the future. Th
:: To live deeper, we have to go to the places that help us find a slower
:: rhythm. But simply going to these places is not enough. We have to let
:: these places touch us, change us, speak to us.”
A sunny week to you all, inside and out.
:: Simon’s Reflections newsletter is published on a
:: bi-weekly basis and contains writings that touch
:: the heart, provoke the mind, and inspire action.
:: Your thoughts and comments are always welcome.
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: Today’s Reflection is about a story that crossed my path,
: “The Three Questions” by Leo Tolstoy. And even though it crossed
: my path a long time ago, it is somehow ever more relevant today.
Three Questions - by Leo Tolstoy
One day it occurred to a certain emperor that if he only knew the answers to three questions, he would never stray in any matter.
What is the best time to do each thing? Who are the most important people to work with? What is the most important thing to do at all times?
The emperor issued a decree throughout his kingdom announcing that whoever could answer the questions would receive a great reward. Many who read the decree made their way to the palace at once, each person with a different answer.
In reply to the first question, one person advised that the emperor make up a thorough time schedule, consecrating every hour, day, month, and year for certain tasks and then follow the schedule to the letter. Only then could he hope to do every task at the right time.
Another person replied that it was impossible to plan in advance and that the emperor should put all vain amusements aside and remain attentive to everything in order to know what to do at what time.
Someone else insisted that, by himself, the emperor could never hope to have all the foresight and competence necessary to decide when to do each and every task and what he really needed was to set up a Council of the Wise and then to act according to their advice.
Someone else said that certain matters required immediate decision and could not wait for consultation, but if he wanted to know in advance what was going to happen he should consult magicians and soothsayers.
The responses to the second question also lacked accord.
One person said that the emperor needed to place all his trust in administrators, another urged reliance on priests and monks, while others recommended physicians. Still others put their faith in warriors.
The third question drew a similar variety of answers. Some said science was the most important pursuit. Others insisted on religion. Yet others claimed the most important thing was military skill.
The emperor was not pleased with any of the answers, and no reward was given.
After several nights of reflection, the emperor resolved to visit a hermit who lived up on the mountain and was said to be an enlightened man. The emperor wished to find the hermit to ask him the three questions, though he knew the hermit never left the mountains and was known to receive only the poor, refusing to have anything to do with persons of wealth or power. So the emperor disguised himself as a simple peasant and ordered his attendants to wait for him at the foot of the mountain while he climbed the slope alone to seek the hermit.
Reaching the holy man's dwelling place, the emperor found the hermit digging a garden in front of his hut. When the hermit saw the stranger, he nodded his head in greeting and continued to dig. The labor was obviously hard on him. He was an old man, and each time he thrust his spade into the ground to turn the earth, he heaved heavily.
The emperor approached him and said, "I have come here to ask your help with three questions: When is the best time to do each thing? Who are the most important people to work with? What is the most important thing to do at all times?"
The hermit listened attentively but only patted the emperor on the shoulder and continued digging. The emperor said, "You must be tired. Here, let me give you a hand with that." The hermit thanked him, handed the emperor the spade, and then sat down on the ground to rest.
After he had dug two rows, the emperor stopped and turned to the hermit and repeated his three questions. The hermit still did not answer, but instead stood up and pointed to the spade and said, "Why don't you rest now? I can take over again." But the emperor continued to dig. One hour passed, then two. Finally the sun began to set behind the mountain. The emperor put down the spade and said to the hermit, "I came here to ask if you could answer my three questions. But if you can't give me any answer, please let me know so that I can get on may way home."
The hermit lifted his head and asked the emperor, "Do you hear someone running over there?" The emperor turned his head. They both saw a man with a long white beard emerge from the woods. He ran wildly, pressing his hands against a bloody wound in his stomach. The man ran toward the emperor before falling unconscious to the ground, where he lay groaning. Opening the man's clothing, the emperor and hermit saw that the man had received a deep gash. The emperor cleaned the wound thoroughly and then used his own shirt to bandage it, but the blood completely soaked it within minutes. He rinsed the shirt out and bandaged the wound a second time and continued to do so until the flow of blood had stopped.
At last the wounded man regained consciousness and asked for a drink of water. The emperor ran down to the stream and brought back a jug of fresh water. Meanwhile, the sun had disappeared and the night air had begun to turn cold. The hermit gave the emperor a hand in carrying the man into the hut where they laid him down on the hermit's bed. The man closed his eyes and lay quietly. The emperor was worn out from the long day of climbing the mountain and digging the garden. Leaning against the doorway, he fell asleep. When he rose, the sun had already risen over the mountain. For a moment he forgot where he was and what he had come here for. He looked over to the bed and saw the wounded man also looking around him in confusion. When he saw the emperor, he stared at him intently and then said in a faint whisper, "Please forgive me."
"But what have you done that I should forgive you?" the emperor asked.
"You do not know me, your majesty, but I know you. I was your sworn enemy, and I had vowed to take vengeance on you, for during the last war you killed my brother and seized my property. When I learned that you were coming alone to the mountain to meet the hermit, I resolved to surprise you on your way back to kill you. But after waiting a long time there was still no sign of you, and so I left my ambush in order to seek you out. But instead of finding you, I came across your attendants, who recognized me, giving me this wound. Luckily, I escaped and ran here. If I hadn't met you I would surely be dead by now. I had intended to kill you, but instead you saved my life! I am ashamed and grateful beyond words. If I live, I vow to be your servant for the rest of my life, and I will bid my children and grandchildren to do the same. Please grant me your forgiveness."
The emperor was overjoyed to see that he was so easily reconciled with a former enemy. He not only forgave the man but promised to return all the man's property and to send his own physician and servants to wait on the man until he was completely healed. After ordering his attendants to take the man home, the emperor returned to see the hermit. Before returning to the palace the emperor wanted to repeat his three questions one last time. He found the hermit sowing seeds in the earth they had dug the day before.
The hermit stood up and looked at the emperor. "But your questions have already been answered."
"How's that?" the emperor asked, puzzled.
"Yesterday, if you had not taken pity on my age and given me a hand with digging these beds, you would have been attacked by that man on your way home. Then you would have deeply regretted not staying with me. Therefore the most important time was the time you were digging in the beds, the most important person was myself, and the most important pursuit was to help me. Later, when the wounded man ran up here, the most important time was the time you spent dressing his wound, for if you had not cared for him he would have died and you would have lost the chance to be reconciled with him. Likewise, he was the most important person, and the most important pursuit was taking care of his wound. Remember that there is only one important time and is Now. The present moment is the only time over which we have dominion. The most important person is always the person with whom you are, who is right before you, for who knows if you will have dealings with any other person in the future. Th
:: To live deeper, we have to go to the places that help us find a slower
:: rhythm. But simply going to these places is not enough. We have to let
:: these places touch us, change us, speak to us.”
A sunny week to you all, inside and out.
:: Simon’s Reflections newsletter is published on a
:: bi-weekly basis and contains writings that touch
:: the heart, provoke the mind, and inspire action.
:: Your thoughts and comments are always welcome.
Simon
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25 March 2009
Voice Dialogue Tips
March 2009
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Dear Joyce,
This month we continue our series of articles titled " The Top Ten Challenges to Relationship: Keeping Your Love Alive Amid Life's Routines "
The Top Ten Challenges to Relationship:
Keeping Your Love Alive Amid Life's Routines
(an excerpt from Dr Hal & Sidra Stone's book titled "Partnering")
Challenge 2: Work
Our work is very important. It gives us power and money and keeps us safe in the world. It helps us to define ourselves. Hopefully, if we give it enough attention, our work will always be there to support us and we do not have to worry about our work abandoning or divorcing us. Most important, as long as we have our work, we do not have to think very much about our vulnerability. Anything that helps us to deal with our vulnerability, without us having to face it directly, is extremely attractive.
Is it any wonder that many of us develop a primary linkage to our work and relegate our relationship to second place? When we feel vulnerable deep down inside and we do not want to know about it, going to work can make us feel better. At work, we make a difference. We are needed. We are wanted. Here we have mastery, or at least we can work toward mastery. This is extremely reassuring. Life feels safe and structured and our priorities are set for us. We know what is expected and we are able to do the right thing. Add to all this, the fact that we are earning money and contributing to the financial security of both our inner and outer children and you have a total win-win situation.
Unfortunately, the more our linkage is to work, the less energy there is left for relationship. Since the lifeblood of any relationship is linkage, this is not good for the relationship! The tendency to link to work rather than to one's partner is a major challenge to relationship.
Traditionally, men have buried themselves in work when they felt vulnerable or their emotions became too uncomfortable. Now women, too, have this marvelous option available. Many women have learned to drop the linkage in the relationship and shift their energies to their work. When the going gets rough for a two-career couple and each partner has satisfying work, there is a strong temptation for the partners to shift the primary linkage from their relationship to their work. As this happens, each feels abandoned by the other and each links even more intensely to work.
This linkage may be to the work itself, to the clients they serve, or to their coworkers. This linkage is frequently to a particular person at work, an understanding coworker or a particularly supportive assistant. Traditionally it was the man's secretary. This may or may not become a full-blown extramarital relationship.
We find this can be a particularly subtle challenge for people who work together. For instance, it is very easy for the two of us to get so involved in a project that we lose contact with each other. We may both get so interested in our writing that our linkage goes to the book rather than to one another. It may look as though we are still in a relationship because we are both linked to the same object, but we are not. Not really. We are like two oxen yoked to the same cart. We are pulling together and doing a great job, but we have blinders on and we no longer see each other. We just see the road ahead. When this happens, there is a loss of intimacy. We do not feel good and we do not know why.
There are many times in life when being linked to work looks like a natural and necessary move. This is particularly true when there are financial pressures, either real or imagined. One or both partners will deal with this underlying vulnerability in the most seemingly sensible fashion by working harder and earning more money. This is not a problem if the connection between the partners stays strong and intimate. Usually, however, at times like these the truly strong connection switches to work and the partners gradually and unobtrusively drift apart until they are almost like strangers to one another.
Of course, there are times when any of us will feel better at work than at home, but think about it. Over all, where do you feel better, with your partner or with your work?
To deal with this challenge, see what you can do about putting a limit on the amount of time you spend at work or thinking about work. Set boundaries. Try to set realistic time limits that you can meet; for instance, no work or work-related activity between 8:30 P.M. and 7:00 A.M. This will probably be extremely difficult to do at first. To help you do this, keep a notepad with you so that when you have a work-related thought during your off-hours, you can write it down and not think about it until the next work session. For instance, you remember that you should send an E-mail to double check on yesterday's order. Write it down on your notepad and put it away until tomorrow. Otherwise you will probably spend a great deal of time (1) trying not to think this thought and (2) fearing that you will forget to send the E-mail.
The next Challenge to Relationship is titled "Other Relationships in Fact and Fantasy" , and will be presented in upcoming Voice Dialogue Tips.
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Dear Joyce,
This month we continue our series of articles titled " The Top Ten Challenges to Relationship: Keeping Your Love Alive Amid Life's Routines "
The Top Ten Challenges to Relationship:
Keeping Your Love Alive Amid Life's Routines
(an excerpt from Dr Hal & Sidra Stone's book titled "Partnering")
Challenge 2: Work
Our work is very important. It gives us power and money and keeps us safe in the world. It helps us to define ourselves. Hopefully, if we give it enough attention, our work will always be there to support us and we do not have to worry about our work abandoning or divorcing us. Most important, as long as we have our work, we do not have to think very much about our vulnerability. Anything that helps us to deal with our vulnerability, without us having to face it directly, is extremely attractive.
Is it any wonder that many of us develop a primary linkage to our work and relegate our relationship to second place? When we feel vulnerable deep down inside and we do not want to know about it, going to work can make us feel better. At work, we make a difference. We are needed. We are wanted. Here we have mastery, or at least we can work toward mastery. This is extremely reassuring. Life feels safe and structured and our priorities are set for us. We know what is expected and we are able to do the right thing. Add to all this, the fact that we are earning money and contributing to the financial security of both our inner and outer children and you have a total win-win situation.
Unfortunately, the more our linkage is to work, the less energy there is left for relationship. Since the lifeblood of any relationship is linkage, this is not good for the relationship! The tendency to link to work rather than to one's partner is a major challenge to relationship.
Traditionally, men have buried themselves in work when they felt vulnerable or their emotions became too uncomfortable. Now women, too, have this marvelous option available. Many women have learned to drop the linkage in the relationship and shift their energies to their work. When the going gets rough for a two-career couple and each partner has satisfying work, there is a strong temptation for the partners to shift the primary linkage from their relationship to their work. As this happens, each feels abandoned by the other and each links even more intensely to work.
This linkage may be to the work itself, to the clients they serve, or to their coworkers. This linkage is frequently to a particular person at work, an understanding coworker or a particularly supportive assistant. Traditionally it was the man's secretary. This may or may not become a full-blown extramarital relationship.
We find this can be a particularly subtle challenge for people who work together. For instance, it is very easy for the two of us to get so involved in a project that we lose contact with each other. We may both get so interested in our writing that our linkage goes to the book rather than to one another. It may look as though we are still in a relationship because we are both linked to the same object, but we are not. Not really. We are like two oxen yoked to the same cart. We are pulling together and doing a great job, but we have blinders on and we no longer see each other. We just see the road ahead. When this happens, there is a loss of intimacy. We do not feel good and we do not know why.
There are many times in life when being linked to work looks like a natural and necessary move. This is particularly true when there are financial pressures, either real or imagined. One or both partners will deal with this underlying vulnerability in the most seemingly sensible fashion by working harder and earning more money. This is not a problem if the connection between the partners stays strong and intimate. Usually, however, at times like these the truly strong connection switches to work and the partners gradually and unobtrusively drift apart until they are almost like strangers to one another.
Of course, there are times when any of us will feel better at work than at home, but think about it. Over all, where do you feel better, with your partner or with your work?
To deal with this challenge, see what you can do about putting a limit on the amount of time you spend at work or thinking about work. Set boundaries. Try to set realistic time limits that you can meet; for instance, no work or work-related activity between 8:30 P.M. and 7:00 A.M. This will probably be extremely difficult to do at first. To help you do this, keep a notepad with you so that when you have a work-related thought during your off-hours, you can write it down and not think about it until the next work session. For instance, you remember that you should send an E-mail to double check on yesterday's order. Write it down on your notepad and put it away until tomorrow. Otherwise you will probably spend a great deal of time (1) trying not to think this thought and (2) fearing that you will forget to send the E-mail.
The next Challenge to Relationship is titled "Other Relationships in Fact and Fantasy" , and will be presented in upcoming Voice Dialogue Tips.
For more information on Voice Dialogue, visit http://www.bodymindinformation.com
To read previous Voice Dialogue tips, visit http://www.bodymindinformation.com/voice-dialogue-tips-archive.htm
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27 February 2009
Voice Dialogue Tips
Voice Dialogue Tips
February 2009
Email us: jcoroneos@bigpond.com
Web Site: http://www.bodymindinformation.com
Dear Joyce,
Welcome to the Voice Dialogue Tips. This month's article is titled:
Using Subpersonalities in Successful Story and Film Script Writing By Michael Domeyko Rowland
Michael Domeyko Rowland is the director and presenter of the 12 part Voice Dialogue Video Series and author of the Screen Story Writing System. I have had many requests for his view on subpersonalities and their place in writing films and books. So I thought I'd send his article out this month, and follow with a continuation of Hal & Sidra's series of articles titled "The Top Ten Challenges to Relationship".
Using Subpersonalities in Successful Story and Film Script Writing
By Michael Domeyko Rowland
Writing film scripts and novels is a job of consciously building a story that can awaken powerful emotions in your audience.
To be really successful at this, it is vital to understand that reading and viewing stories is also the main way that people experience the integration of different selves or subpersonalities.
It is actually the awakening and the integration of previously buried selves in a story character that causes the emotional catharsis in the audience.
This is the real function of story and the secret of writing great works and enjoying huge success.
When a person goes to the movies, or reads a novel, they are quite obviously looking for something. At the surface level it may be just pure entertainment.
But, at a deeper level, they are actually seeking a greater knowledge of how to live.
Unless you are fortunate enough to know about Voice Dialogue, and the brilliant work of Hal and Sidra Stone, your mind will constantly be seeking the means to become whole and make sense of your life.
At a subconscious level, everybody knows that they are made up of many different subpersonalities. In some this insight is conscious. But for the majority of people it is a mystery. They have no idea that this is how their mind operates.
They believe they are a singular being, and that they are limited to whatever modes of expression they have at the surface of their mind.
Most feel deeply that they could be far more than they actually are, and express themselves in many more ways than they do. But they have no idea how to do it. And, as each year passes, they feel the opportunity slipping away.
So they are driven to do something about this sense of lack.
The way that society has evolved is that stories are offered as the solution. Good ones actually are a solution. The not so good are a sedative for this problem.
When you read a book, or go to a movie, you identify with the lead character, who is known as the protagonist. Your consciousness slips away, as you fall into the story, and your identification with the protagonist allows you to be drawn deeply into a subconscious state and join in with the adventure, or drama, that the protagonist is undergoing.
The more well written the story, the more the audience can identify with the protagonist. Well written means the ability to cause a catharsis, or flood of emotions in the audience.
If a story can do this, then it will become an immediate success. We only have to look at ‘Slumdog Millionaire' to see the power of a story's emotions to take a film to unimaginable heights.
What is most interesting, about a great story, is that the protagonist goes through a transformational arc. In other words they begin with a lack in their character and, by the end of the story, they have solved this by adding an extra subpersonality to their primary self structure.
If they do not do this, and remain the same person at the end of the story, as they were at the beginning, then the audience receive no experience of transformation.
So a protagonist might start off without, say, the courage to take responsibility for their family. By the end of the story, after the specific dramatic events have taken place, they have added the characteristics of courage and responsibility to their primary selves. They have awoken and integrated the selves of courage and responsibility.
As the audience is identified with the protagonist in a great story, the experience the protagonist goes through, of integration of an additional sub personality, is also experienced by the audience.
For a person reading a book or watching a movie, this shared journey of awakening and expressing an additional self or selves, satisfies that basic need of becoming more than they are in their present-day life. This is the function of story catharsis.
Another way of saying this is giving birth to those characteristics or selves that have not had the opportunity of expression before.
This experience draws an audience member out of themselves and increases their energy. They have a sense of fulfilment and happiness they did not have at the beginning of the story. They feel renewed.
After all emotion is e-motion or energy in motion. The great story has caused more energy to flow through them, because something has been unlocked in their psyche.
In fact, the secret of writing successful stories is to realise that people are constantly looking to awaken and integrate more of their selves. So, it is vital to ensure that when you write, you specifically aim your story to give them that experience, through the creation of an emotional catharsis and integration of more selves.
For information on Michael Rowland's writing course, please go to: www.screenstorywriting.com or email him to: info@screenstorywriting.com
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February 2009
Email us: jcoroneos@bigpond.com
Web Site: http://www.bodymindinformation.com
Dear Joyce,
Welcome to the Voice Dialogue Tips. This month's article is titled:
Using Subpersonalities in Successful Story and Film Script Writing By Michael Domeyko Rowland
Michael Domeyko Rowland is the director and presenter of the 12 part Voice Dialogue Video Series and author of the Screen Story Writing System. I have had many requests for his view on subpersonalities and their place in writing films and books. So I thought I'd send his article out this month, and follow with a continuation of Hal & Sidra's series of articles titled "The Top Ten Challenges to Relationship".
Using Subpersonalities in Successful Story and Film Script Writing
By Michael Domeyko Rowland
Writing film scripts and novels is a job of consciously building a story that can awaken powerful emotions in your audience.
To be really successful at this, it is vital to understand that reading and viewing stories is also the main way that people experience the integration of different selves or subpersonalities.
It is actually the awakening and the integration of previously buried selves in a story character that causes the emotional catharsis in the audience.
This is the real function of story and the secret of writing great works and enjoying huge success.
When a person goes to the movies, or reads a novel, they are quite obviously looking for something. At the surface level it may be just pure entertainment.
But, at a deeper level, they are actually seeking a greater knowledge of how to live.
Unless you are fortunate enough to know about Voice Dialogue, and the brilliant work of Hal and Sidra Stone, your mind will constantly be seeking the means to become whole and make sense of your life.
At a subconscious level, everybody knows that they are made up of many different subpersonalities. In some this insight is conscious. But for the majority of people it is a mystery. They have no idea that this is how their mind operates.
They believe they are a singular being, and that they are limited to whatever modes of expression they have at the surface of their mind.
Most feel deeply that they could be far more than they actually are, and express themselves in many more ways than they do. But they have no idea how to do it. And, as each year passes, they feel the opportunity slipping away.
So they are driven to do something about this sense of lack.
The way that society has evolved is that stories are offered as the solution. Good ones actually are a solution. The not so good are a sedative for this problem.
When you read a book, or go to a movie, you identify with the lead character, who is known as the protagonist. Your consciousness slips away, as you fall into the story, and your identification with the protagonist allows you to be drawn deeply into a subconscious state and join in with the adventure, or drama, that the protagonist is undergoing.
The more well written the story, the more the audience can identify with the protagonist. Well written means the ability to cause a catharsis, or flood of emotions in the audience.
If a story can do this, then it will become an immediate success. We only have to look at ‘Slumdog Millionaire' to see the power of a story's emotions to take a film to unimaginable heights.
What is most interesting, about a great story, is that the protagonist goes through a transformational arc. In other words they begin with a lack in their character and, by the end of the story, they have solved this by adding an extra subpersonality to their primary self structure.
If they do not do this, and remain the same person at the end of the story, as they were at the beginning, then the audience receive no experience of transformation.
So a protagonist might start off without, say, the courage to take responsibility for their family. By the end of the story, after the specific dramatic events have taken place, they have added the characteristics of courage and responsibility to their primary selves. They have awoken and integrated the selves of courage and responsibility.
As the audience is identified with the protagonist in a great story, the experience the protagonist goes through, of integration of an additional sub personality, is also experienced by the audience.
For a person reading a book or watching a movie, this shared journey of awakening and expressing an additional self or selves, satisfies that basic need of becoming more than they are in their present-day life. This is the function of story catharsis.
Another way of saying this is giving birth to those characteristics or selves that have not had the opportunity of expression before.
This experience draws an audience member out of themselves and increases their energy. They have a sense of fulfilment and happiness they did not have at the beginning of the story. They feel renewed.
After all emotion is e-motion or energy in motion. The great story has caused more energy to flow through them, because something has been unlocked in their psyche.
In fact, the secret of writing successful stories is to realise that people are constantly looking to awaken and integrate more of their selves. So, it is vital to ensure that when you write, you specifically aim your story to give them that experience, through the creation of an emotional catharsis and integration of more selves.
For information on Michael Rowland's writing course, please go to: www.screenstorywriting.com or email him to: info@screenstorywriting.com
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They can also register to receive future copies on our web site, which has a subscriber's panel, or they can email jcoroneos@bigpond.com directly. We will not be giving any of the addresses we receive to anyone else or any other organization. At any point you can stop receiving them - just click on the unsubscribe link at the bottom of this email.
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Warmly,
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Medical Doctor
Producer of The Voice Dialogue Series
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26 February 2009
Simon's Reflections
: Today’s Reflection is about a poem that feels very relevant
: to my life right now. Perhaps to yours too, even though the
: reasons might not be the same.
In that first
hardly noticed
moment
to which you wake,
coming back
to this life
from the other
more secret,
moveable
and frighteningly
honest
world
where everything
began,
there is a small
opening
into the new day
which closes
the moment
you begin
your plans.
What you can plan
is too small
for you to live.
What you can live
wholeheartedly
will make plans
enough
for the vitality
hidden in your sleep.
To be human
is to become visible
while carrying
what is hidden
as a gift to others.
To remember
the other world
in this world
is to live in your
true inheritance.
You are not
a troubled guest
on this earth,
you are not
an accident
amidst other accidents
you were invited
from another and greater
night
than the one
from which
you have just emerged.
Now, looking through
the slanting light
of the morning
window toward
the mountain
presence
of everything
that can be,
what urgency
calls you to your
one love? What shape
waits in the seed
of you to grow
and spread
its branches
against a future sky?
Is it waiting
in the fertile sea?
In the trees
beyond the house?
In the life
you can imagine
for yourself?
In the open
and lovely
white page
on the waiting desk?
- David Whyte
A sunny week to you all, inside and out.
:: Simon’s Reflections newsletter is published on a
:: bi-weekly basis and contains writings that touch
:: the heart, provoke the mind, and inspire action.
:: Your thoughts and comments are always welcome.
Simon
About: http://www.SimonGoland.com
Blog: http://www.SimonGoland.com/news
Archives: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/SimonsReflectionsList
__._,_.___
: to my life right now. Perhaps to yours too, even though the
: reasons might not be the same.
In that first
hardly noticed
moment
to which you wake,
coming back
to this life
from the other
more secret,
moveable
and frighteningly
honest
world
where everything
began,
there is a small
opening
into the new day
which closes
the moment
you begin
your plans.
What you can plan
is too small
for you to live.
What you can live
wholeheartedly
will make plans
enough
for the vitality
hidden in your sleep.
To be human
is to become visible
while carrying
what is hidden
as a gift to others.
To remember
the other world
in this world
is to live in your
true inheritance.
You are not
a troubled guest
on this earth,
you are not
an accident
amidst other accidents
you were invited
from another and greater
night
than the one
from which
you have just emerged.
Now, looking through
the slanting light
of the morning
window toward
the mountain
presence
of everything
that can be,
what urgency
calls you to your
one love? What shape
waits in the seed
of you to grow
and spread
its branches
against a future sky?
Is it waiting
in the fertile sea?
In the trees
beyond the house?
In the life
you can imagine
for yourself?
In the open
and lovely
white page
on the waiting desk?
- David Whyte
A sunny week to you all, inside and out.
:: Simon’s Reflections newsletter is published on a
:: bi-weekly basis and contains writings that touch
:: the heart, provoke the mind, and inspire action.
:: Your thoughts and comments are always welcome.
Simon
About: http://www.SimonGoland.com
Blog: http://www.SimonGoland.com/news
Archives: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/SimonsReflectionsList
__._,_.___
17 January 2009
Voice Dialogue Tips
Voice Dialogue Tips
January 2009
Email us: jcoroneos@bigpond.com
Web Site: http://www.bodymindinformation.com
Dear shadowbear,
Welcome again to Hal & Sidra's Voice Dialogue Tips.
1. The month's article is the first in a series titled " The Top Ten Challenges to Relationship: Keeping Your Love Alive Amid Life's Routines "
2. Are You Interested in Writing Novels or Screenplays as a Lucrative Career?
Discover how Successful Story Writing is based on Subpersonalities (See article below)
The Top Ten Challenges to Relationship:
Keeping Your Love Alive Amid Life's Routines
(from Dr Hal & Sidra Stone's book titled "Partnering")
The basic requirement for the care and feeding of a relationship is this: Partners must make the linkage — or connection — between them a priority in their lives.
There are many challenges to relationship, some of them come from outside of us and some come from within. We are going to show you the top ten challenges so that you can recognize them and do something about them. Meeting these challenges takes commitment, time, and effort. But a good relationship is well worth this effort and, we might point out, a great deal of this effort can be fun.
There is one very simple principle to keep in mind. The basic requirement for the care and feeding of a relationship is this: Partners must make the linkage — or connection — between them a priority in their lives. If they do so, the relationship will flourish. Anything that disrupts this linkage will disrupt their relationship.
Even the most devoted of partners will have interests other than their relationships and they will form attachments and linkages elsewhere. This is an important part of life. However, if your primary linkage in life shifts away from your partner and remains elsewhere, it is likely to prove fatal to your relationship.
There is a great deal of competition for our attention. All of us have a great many distractions in our lives and we do not have to go far to find something that will divert our attention from our partners. We will describe the ten major distractions that we have seen over the years. At the end of each of these, we will give you a chance to answer the question: Where is your primary linkage? You can use these questions to look at your own relationship to determine which among these are your major challenges.
Challenge 1: Television
Most homes have a television set. Actually, many homes have more than one so that each family member has a set all to his or her own. This is a very compelling distraction. Television sets and television programs are designed to attract us and keep our attention. That is their goal. The entire industry is based upon linking us irrevocably to the TV set. They seduce us with the weekly shows, the news, the stock market, our favorite ball team, the Olympics, the latest scandal, our favorite soap opera, that special program we cannot miss. Others among us are seduced by the sheer power inherent in the remote control. We are in charge! We can do or watch whatever we like, whenever we like. We can change stations to our hearts content without anybody scolding us. We are not forced to finish anything.
In addition to this seductive quality of television, there is its lack of confrontation and complication. It essentially complements your every mood and gives you whatever you want, whenever you want it. After all, has your TV ever made demands on you? Has it ever been disappointed in you? Has it ever criticized you? Has it made you feel vulnerable? Does it pressure you to finish anything? Does it frighten you or make you feel insecure? Do its feelings get hurt? Does it ever disagree with you? In short, there is no way that a TV set makes you as uncomfortable as your partner can!
Is it any wonder that we frequently find partners spending a great deal more time linked energetically to the TV than to one another?
Think about it! Are you more attached to your TV than to your partner? Which would you rather do without?
If you would rather do without your partner, it seems safe to say that something is missing in your relationship. We find that one of the first things to disappear in a relationship is time together. Both partners get so busy that they forget each other. Life today is difficult and demanding. People are usually so overworked, overstressed, or exhausted that when they do have a moment, they drop into a comfortable chair and watch TV. It takes real effort to stay on your feet and do something different.
The next Challenges to Relationship will be presented in upcoming Voice Dialogue Tips.
For more information on Voice Dialogue, visit http://www.bodymindinformation.com
2. WRITING: Become a Successful Story and Screenwriter
Story and Screenwriting is the fastest way to generate extra income, in an enjoyable way
that allows you to use your interest in subpersonalities and self development.
SPECIAL OFFER: RECEIVE THE FIRST LESSON FREE!
2.
from Michael Domeyko Rowland,
presenter, director and writer of the Voice Dialogue Series .
This Brand New writing course reveals extraordinary information of why people read stories and go to see films.
You will discover that real writing is designed to allow the audience to experience personal integration of various subpersonalities during their reading and viewing. Very few know how to do this, now you can be one of them.
Writing is an incredibly fulfilling activity and without doubt the most creative outlet for anyone interested in the personality and exploring the deeper parts of the mind. As you write, you will reveal your own inner being and discover all sorts of things about yourself that you would never find in any other way.
Writing for the screen or the page is a fascinating and amazing experience, when approached in the right way. It is also the fastest way to generate a very large income, with royalties that can pay off for the rest of your life.
Most people make the mistake of writing from the conscious mind. The conscious mind can only ever come up with clichés, because it is not the source of originality and creativity. It is vital for editing, but not for creation. Many also make the mistake of not understanding the true function of story for an audience, which is to raise their level of consciousness.
Deep within your mind you have an unlimited resource, a realm of undiscovered subpersonalities, which only the greatest writers know about. This resource is called the Mythopoetica. It is the realm of your superconscious mind. It holds the ability to create any story whatsoever.
This is the part of your mind that also creates all your dreams. It is also the part of your mind that will bring into your consciousness the most inspiring, interesting and amazing stories you can imagine.
If you are interested in discovering the complete structural system, used by the world's finest story and screenwriters to guarantee that they have a professional and saleable story, as well as how to write directly from your superconscious, then please email me and I will send you a link for the first lesson absolutely FREE, along with an ebrochure about a web distributed writing course. You will be able to download a forty five minute audio lesson as an MP3, as well as a PDF of each lesson. You can then study the material at your leisure.
The integration of classic structure and the superconscious is what makes this course unique.
Email to: info@lifeact.com and put ‘Writing' in the subject line.
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They can also register to receive future copies on our web site, which has a subscriber's panel, or they can email jcoroneos@bigpond.com directly. We will not be giving any of the addresses we receive to anyone else or any other organization. At any point you can stop receiving them - just click on the unsubscribe link at the bottom of this email.
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Warmly,
Dr John Coroneos
Medical Doctor
Producer of The Voice Dialogue Series
January 2009
Email us: jcoroneos@bigpond.com
Web Site: http://www.bodymindinformation.com
Dear shadowbear,
Welcome again to Hal & Sidra's Voice Dialogue Tips.
1. The month's article is the first in a series titled " The Top Ten Challenges to Relationship: Keeping Your Love Alive Amid Life's Routines "
2. Are You Interested in Writing Novels or Screenplays as a Lucrative Career?
Discover how Successful Story Writing is based on Subpersonalities (See article below)
The Top Ten Challenges to Relationship:
Keeping Your Love Alive Amid Life's Routines
(from Dr Hal & Sidra Stone's book titled "Partnering")
The basic requirement for the care and feeding of a relationship is this: Partners must make the linkage — or connection — between them a priority in their lives.
There are many challenges to relationship, some of them come from outside of us and some come from within. We are going to show you the top ten challenges so that you can recognize them and do something about them. Meeting these challenges takes commitment, time, and effort. But a good relationship is well worth this effort and, we might point out, a great deal of this effort can be fun.
There is one very simple principle to keep in mind. The basic requirement for the care and feeding of a relationship is this: Partners must make the linkage — or connection — between them a priority in their lives. If they do so, the relationship will flourish. Anything that disrupts this linkage will disrupt their relationship.
Even the most devoted of partners will have interests other than their relationships and they will form attachments and linkages elsewhere. This is an important part of life. However, if your primary linkage in life shifts away from your partner and remains elsewhere, it is likely to prove fatal to your relationship.
There is a great deal of competition for our attention. All of us have a great many distractions in our lives and we do not have to go far to find something that will divert our attention from our partners. We will describe the ten major distractions that we have seen over the years. At the end of each of these, we will give you a chance to answer the question: Where is your primary linkage? You can use these questions to look at your own relationship to determine which among these are your major challenges.
Challenge 1: Television
Most homes have a television set. Actually, many homes have more than one so that each family member has a set all to his or her own. This is a very compelling distraction. Television sets and television programs are designed to attract us and keep our attention. That is their goal. The entire industry is based upon linking us irrevocably to the TV set. They seduce us with the weekly shows, the news, the stock market, our favorite ball team, the Olympics, the latest scandal, our favorite soap opera, that special program we cannot miss. Others among us are seduced by the sheer power inherent in the remote control. We are in charge! We can do or watch whatever we like, whenever we like. We can change stations to our hearts content without anybody scolding us. We are not forced to finish anything.
In addition to this seductive quality of television, there is its lack of confrontation and complication. It essentially complements your every mood and gives you whatever you want, whenever you want it. After all, has your TV ever made demands on you? Has it ever been disappointed in you? Has it ever criticized you? Has it made you feel vulnerable? Does it pressure you to finish anything? Does it frighten you or make you feel insecure? Do its feelings get hurt? Does it ever disagree with you? In short, there is no way that a TV set makes you as uncomfortable as your partner can!
Is it any wonder that we frequently find partners spending a great deal more time linked energetically to the TV than to one another?
Think about it! Are you more attached to your TV than to your partner? Which would you rather do without?
If you would rather do without your partner, it seems safe to say that something is missing in your relationship. We find that one of the first things to disappear in a relationship is time together. Both partners get so busy that they forget each other. Life today is difficult and demanding. People are usually so overworked, overstressed, or exhausted that when they do have a moment, they drop into a comfortable chair and watch TV. It takes real effort to stay on your feet and do something different.
The next Challenges to Relationship will be presented in upcoming Voice Dialogue Tips.
For more information on Voice Dialogue, visit http://www.bodymindinformation.com
2. WRITING: Become a Successful Story and Screenwriter
Story and Screenwriting is the fastest way to generate extra income, in an enjoyable way
that allows you to use your interest in subpersonalities and self development.
SPECIAL OFFER: RECEIVE THE FIRST LESSON FREE!
2.
from Michael Domeyko Rowland,
presenter, director and writer of the Voice Dialogue Series .
This Brand New writing course reveals extraordinary information of why people read stories and go to see films.
You will discover that real writing is designed to allow the audience to experience personal integration of various subpersonalities during their reading and viewing. Very few know how to do this, now you can be one of them.
Writing is an incredibly fulfilling activity and without doubt the most creative outlet for anyone interested in the personality and exploring the deeper parts of the mind. As you write, you will reveal your own inner being and discover all sorts of things about yourself that you would never find in any other way.
Writing for the screen or the page is a fascinating and amazing experience, when approached in the right way. It is also the fastest way to generate a very large income, with royalties that can pay off for the rest of your life.
Most people make the mistake of writing from the conscious mind. The conscious mind can only ever come up with clichés, because it is not the source of originality and creativity. It is vital for editing, but not for creation. Many also make the mistake of not understanding the true function of story for an audience, which is to raise their level of consciousness.
Deep within your mind you have an unlimited resource, a realm of undiscovered subpersonalities, which only the greatest writers know about. This resource is called the Mythopoetica. It is the realm of your superconscious mind. It holds the ability to create any story whatsoever.
This is the part of your mind that also creates all your dreams. It is also the part of your mind that will bring into your consciousness the most inspiring, interesting and amazing stories you can imagine.
If you are interested in discovering the complete structural system, used by the world's finest story and screenwriters to guarantee that they have a professional and saleable story, as well as how to write directly from your superconscious, then please email me and I will send you a link for the first lesson absolutely FREE, along with an ebrochure about a web distributed writing course. You will be able to download a forty five minute audio lesson as an MP3, as well as a PDF of each lesson. You can then study the material at your leisure.
The integration of classic structure and the superconscious is what makes this course unique.
Email to: info@lifeact.com and put ‘Writing' in the subject line.
---------------------------------------------------------------------------
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Simon's Reflections 2009
: Today’s Reflection is about the end of a year and a beginning of another.
: And, I believe, a lot more.
This past year feels both very long and short at the same time, which I find interesting. What happened last year? Some of the global-scale events that come to mind include:
The extradition of Radovan Karadzic (the "Butcher of Bosnia") to The Hague, the International Criminal Tribunal, to face charges of crimes against humanity and genocide.
China hosted the Summer Olympics games.
Rising food prices that pushed millions around the world into hunger. The UN estimates the number of undernourished people worldwide to be almost 1 billion, which is about 1 in 6 or seven people worldwide. For instance, in Haiti, people were reduced to eating patties made of mud, oil, and sugar. “It’s salty and it has butter and you don’t know you’re eating dirt,” 24-year-old Olwich Louis Jeune told "The New York Times."
There were terrorist attacks in Mumbai, India.
Leadership changed in Russia (at least, officially).
Kosovo declared independence from Serbia, on February 17, and became the world's newest state.
Barack Obama was elected the 44th U.S. President.
And, of course, The Global Financial Crisis, which is being called the worst financial crisis since the Great Depression. And like the Great Depression, the 2008 version began in the United States, but soon spread around the world. This is where I lost about 20% of my savings, so far.
:: "The best political, social, and spiritual work we can do is
:: to withdraw the projection of our shadow onto others." – Carl Jung
For me personally, it has also been quite an eventful year. I finally started drumming and taking lessons on a djembe drum, which I absolutely love. I witnessed Tobi being attacked by another dog, experiencing myself as a mother bear protecting her cub. Saw another live show of my favorite Cirque du Soleil. Started a very humble roof-top gardening project, eating some home-grown food while realizing that I am definitely not self-sustainable, food-wise. Spent some time in Israel, visiting my parents, reconnecting with a few dear friends, and eating awesome Israeli food that I miss not having in Vancouver. Spent time in the beautiful wilderness of Interior BC. Encountered the wrath of US Customs and Border officers, and (as a result of it) experienced the pain and sadness of having something I dearly love being taken away. Luckily, temporarily only. Together with Keli and Tobi, discovered the magic of coconut oil, both in its internal and external applications. Readjusted my lifestyle
I am sure there is a lot more that happened last year; somehow, it is quite the blur right now. Dear friends, exciting work, fun times and adventures, moments of love and connection, challenges and sadness and tears, quiet moments of solitude, gratitude for my life and all it brings forth, and the joy of being here and now. Overall, I would say that I have experienced the richness of life, with its highs and lows, a lot more than before. It certainly was a year of growth and humility, the companions that forever walk the journey hand-in-hand.
:: “The saddest thing I see in the world are people who have stopped
:: dreaming. People who cannot legitimately imagine themselves as someone
:: greater than they are. People who cannot see the power in their weak
:: legs or the acumen in their tired minds...” - Loren Bors
One of the incredible gifts of this past year was a book. “A Language Older Than Words” by Derrick Jensen is a book that each person must read, in order to understand the world we live in on a whole different level. This book is absolutely profound – shocking, disturbing, realistic, touching, horrifying and uplifting at the same time, compelling, and inspiring to action. You can find it here: http://tinyurl.com/a7j49v.
How and why do we numb ourselves to our own experience of life in favour of what we have been taught? How and why do we deafen ourselves to the voices of many others who occupy this world together with us? How did it happen that we pretend that anything that we don’t understand - anything that cannot be measured, quantified, and controlled – does not exist? How is it that pagans, Jews, Muslims, heretical Christians, Indians, Africans, Polynesians, Asians, women, men, children, salmon, forests, have been murdered by the millions in the name of a man who said that people should love their neighbours and love their enemies? Why is it that in our economic system, money is valued above all else? What happens when we really and truly open ourselves up and really listen to others around us, and not only humans? What if the point of life is not to accumulate wealth, to create ever-expanding regions of control, and not to keep at bay all those people, objects, beings, and em
This book will take you on a journey you will never forget, and you will never be the same again. I am actually considering contacting Derrick and getting copies of the book, which I would love to share with those willing to embark on this journey. If, for whatever reason, you cannot get the book yourself, please connect with me; I hope to be able to provide you with a copy.
:: “It is not possible to recover from atrocity in isolation. It is, in fact, precisely
:: this isolation that induces the atrocities. If we wish to stop the atrocities, we
:: need merely to step away from the isolation. There is a whole world waiting for us,
:: ready to welcome us home. It has missed us as sorely as we have missed it. And it is
:: time to return.” - Derrick Jensen
A sunny week to you all, inside and out.
:: Simon’s Reflections newsletter is published on a
:: bi-weekly basis and contains writings that touch
:: the heart, provoke the mind, and inspire action.
:: Your thoughts and comments are always welcome.
Simon
About: http://www.SimonGoland.com
Blog: http://www.SimonGoland.com/news
Archives: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/SimonsReflectionsList
: And, I believe, a lot more.
This past year feels both very long and short at the same time, which I find interesting. What happened last year? Some of the global-scale events that come to mind include:
The extradition of Radovan Karadzic (the "Butcher of Bosnia") to The Hague, the International Criminal Tribunal, to face charges of crimes against humanity and genocide.
China hosted the Summer Olympics games.
Rising food prices that pushed millions around the world into hunger. The UN estimates the number of undernourished people worldwide to be almost 1 billion, which is about 1 in 6 or seven people worldwide. For instance, in Haiti, people were reduced to eating patties made of mud, oil, and sugar. “It’s salty and it has butter and you don’t know you’re eating dirt,” 24-year-old Olwich Louis Jeune told "The New York Times."
There were terrorist attacks in Mumbai, India.
Leadership changed in Russia (at least, officially).
Kosovo declared independence from Serbia, on February 17, and became the world's newest state.
Barack Obama was elected the 44th U.S. President.
And, of course, The Global Financial Crisis, which is being called the worst financial crisis since the Great Depression. And like the Great Depression, the 2008 version began in the United States, but soon spread around the world. This is where I lost about 20% of my savings, so far.
:: "The best political, social, and spiritual work we can do is
:: to withdraw the projection of our shadow onto others." – Carl Jung
For me personally, it has also been quite an eventful year. I finally started drumming and taking lessons on a djembe drum, which I absolutely love. I witnessed Tobi being attacked by another dog, experiencing myself as a mother bear protecting her cub. Saw another live show of my favorite Cirque du Soleil. Started a very humble roof-top gardening project, eating some home-grown food while realizing that I am definitely not self-sustainable, food-wise. Spent some time in Israel, visiting my parents, reconnecting with a few dear friends, and eating awesome Israeli food that I miss not having in Vancouver. Spent time in the beautiful wilderness of Interior BC. Encountered the wrath of US Customs and Border officers, and (as a result of it) experienced the pain and sadness of having something I dearly love being taken away. Luckily, temporarily only. Together with Keli and Tobi, discovered the magic of coconut oil, both in its internal and external applications. Readjusted my lifestyle
I am sure there is a lot more that happened last year; somehow, it is quite the blur right now. Dear friends, exciting work, fun times and adventures, moments of love and connection, challenges and sadness and tears, quiet moments of solitude, gratitude for my life and all it brings forth, and the joy of being here and now. Overall, I would say that I have experienced the richness of life, with its highs and lows, a lot more than before. It certainly was a year of growth and humility, the companions that forever walk the journey hand-in-hand.
:: “The saddest thing I see in the world are people who have stopped
:: dreaming. People who cannot legitimately imagine themselves as someone
:: greater than they are. People who cannot see the power in their weak
:: legs or the acumen in their tired minds...” - Loren Bors
One of the incredible gifts of this past year was a book. “A Language Older Than Words” by Derrick Jensen is a book that each person must read, in order to understand the world we live in on a whole different level. This book is absolutely profound – shocking, disturbing, realistic, touching, horrifying and uplifting at the same time, compelling, and inspiring to action. You can find it here: http://tinyurl.com/a7j49v.
How and why do we numb ourselves to our own experience of life in favour of what we have been taught? How and why do we deafen ourselves to the voices of many others who occupy this world together with us? How did it happen that we pretend that anything that we don’t understand - anything that cannot be measured, quantified, and controlled – does not exist? How is it that pagans, Jews, Muslims, heretical Christians, Indians, Africans, Polynesians, Asians, women, men, children, salmon, forests, have been murdered by the millions in the name of a man who said that people should love their neighbours and love their enemies? Why is it that in our economic system, money is valued above all else? What happens when we really and truly open ourselves up and really listen to others around us, and not only humans? What if the point of life is not to accumulate wealth, to create ever-expanding regions of control, and not to keep at bay all those people, objects, beings, and em
This book will take you on a journey you will never forget, and you will never be the same again. I am actually considering contacting Derrick and getting copies of the book, which I would love to share with those willing to embark on this journey. If, for whatever reason, you cannot get the book yourself, please connect with me; I hope to be able to provide you with a copy.
:: “It is not possible to recover from atrocity in isolation. It is, in fact, precisely
:: this isolation that induces the atrocities. If we wish to stop the atrocities, we
:: need merely to step away from the isolation. There is a whole world waiting for us,
:: ready to welcome us home. It has missed us as sorely as we have missed it. And it is
:: time to return.” - Derrick Jensen
A sunny week to you all, inside and out.
:: Simon’s Reflections newsletter is published on a
:: bi-weekly basis and contains writings that touch
:: the heart, provoke the mind, and inspire action.
:: Your thoughts and comments are always welcome.
Simon
About: http://www.SimonGoland.com
Blog: http://www.SimonGoland.com/news
Archives: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/SimonsReflectionsList
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