Voice Dialogue Tips
January 2010
Email us: jcoroneos@bigpond.com
From Dr John Coroneos
Dear Participant
I thought you may be interested to know that our new inspirational feature film ‘Being in Heaven' is opening at the cinemas!
Michael Domeyko Rowland, who you may remember was the presenter and director of Hal and Sidra's Voice Dialogue/Psychology of Selves 12 part video series, is the writer and director of the film. He also acts in it.
I am the co-producer, with Paulina Rowland. If you are interested in subpersonalities and higher states of consciousness, you will love this film.
It is a story for those interested in Personal Development and moving their lives forward to new and more fulfilling experiences. It is a journey of revelation and awakening, where you discover how a single conversation can transform your life and set you on a path of freedom and personal happiness.
Young and successful, Jason Masterman, an Australian working in New York, loses everything in a financial crash. He encounters a mysterious writer who specialises in uplifting people's lives and teaching how it is possible to access the higher potentials you have within you.
Jason undergoes a transformation that will surprise and inspire you, and shows that moving forward, and even radically changing one's life, is possible for anyone.
Prepare to be stimulated and amazed!
To view the trailer and all screening details please go to: www.beinginheaven.com.au
Everyone who attends any cinema will receive a complimentary gift (see website).
Opening at Palace Cinemas, Sydney, Melbourne and Brisbane on January 28th. You can book your ticket right now!
Are you ready to be transformed forever?
Kind Regards,
Dr. John Coroneos
P.S. If you would like to forward this email onto any friends or clients, we would much appreciate it. Here below are some paragraphs describing the film, should they be useful to you.
Suggestions for communicating awareness of the film:
Our All Australian Inspirational and Uplifting Film is opening at the Cinemas! – Everyone who attends receives a Free Gift.
We have been fortunate enough to gain cinema exhibition with Palace Cinemas in Australia, the third largest in the country, for our film ‘Being in Heaven'. It opens in Sydney, Brisbane and Melbourne on the 28 th of January – eight days time!
Is it possible that you could advise as many people as you can that the film is on, by forwarding this email to them, as well as perhaps attend yourself with 300 of your closest friends!!
In order for it to gain a long run, and so make it a success, we need to fill the cinemas for the first few days, and Palace then book it for the following weeks.
There are sessions at either 1.00 pm or 6.30 pm, every day. You can see the trailer and synopsis of the story on www.beinginheaven.com.au
The film had an excellent response at the test launch in Byron Bay, where 93% found it from good to excellent.
Thanks so much for your help, it truly is much appreciated.
20 January 2010
12 January 2010
Simon's reflection
Today’s Reflection is about an irony of life. At least, one of them.
I love what I do. It is both personal and professionally speaking, though right now the focus is more on the latter. Currently, there are four different graduate-level courses on a variety of topics happening in parallel, and various other individual and organizational clients. And a few projects of my own. And then that “PhD thing” lurking somewhere, feeling slightly neglected. The topics are ones that I absolutely love and am passionate about, from coaching to leadership to personal development to entrepreneurship. In the courses, I love the students probably even more than the topics themselves. They are engaged, passionate about the learning and ways to make a difference in the larger picture, intelligent and creative, and also bring a healthy dose of challenge into our learning environments, just to make sure we (the faculty) don’t become too complacent. An ideal combination really.
:: “The Gods have two ways of dealing harshly with us. The first is to deny
:: us our dreams, and the second is to grant them.” - Oscar Wilde
And then, just as I am about to finish teaching one of the courses (only 24 more final papers to read and grade) and savour a bit of a quiet time, two more emails and two more teaching opportunities of the same topics that I love, with both the same and different universities. Great. Awesome. Cool. They keep knocking on the door. Wait. What about my other plans? I was thinking of taking a time out and breath. Damn. Now what do I do?
:: “I beg you... to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart
:: and try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or
:: books written in a very foreign language. Don't search for the answers,
:: which could not be given to you now because you would not be able to live
:: them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now.
:: Perhaps then someday far in the future you will gradually, without even
:: noticing it, live your way into the answer.” - Rainer Maria Rilke
The strong need and desire to know the answer, right now, is one that is all too common to many. Being in the unknown, in the mystery, in the place were we have no comfort of knowing past, present, and future - is not a place people are often looking forward to. We want to know, to be certain, to avoid that state of discomfort of not knowing, of not being seen as the expert, the one “who has it all together,” the one in control, the one comfortably in control. Here, having the right answer, right now, is everything.
Yet, life teaches us that there are no such places. At least, not for any substantial periods of time. A brief and fleeting moment, of seeming certainty, here and there, merely to tease and lure us into complacency. We relax, drop our defenses, stretch and breath deep. In that very moment, something changes, and we are thrown back into the mystery of the unknown.
Can there be too much of a good thing? Can it cause overwhelm? And if so, are we allowed – spiritually, karmically, metaphysically – to say NO to the Universe, when it (not an adequate descriptor, I know) keeps sending our way more and more of what we want? I mean, what if I say NO and the Universe will reply with, “OK, I guess you don’t want it any more, and so I am done with you. Black-booked for the next few reincarnations.” A scary thought.
:: “We do not have enough peace. Yet peace will never be attained by
:: perpetual action. Stirred water never has the chance to settle
:: clear. A tree buffeted by winds can never grow straight.”
:: - Deng Ming-Dao
And, by the way, in case you are still wondering - I said yes and I said no.
A sunny week to you all, inside and out.
:: Simon’s Reflections newsletter is published on a
:: bi-weekly basis and contains writings that touch
:: the heart, provoke the mind, and inspire action.
:: Your thoughts and comments are always welcome.
Simon
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I love what I do. It is both personal and professionally speaking, though right now the focus is more on the latter. Currently, there are four different graduate-level courses on a variety of topics happening in parallel, and various other individual and organizational clients. And a few projects of my own. And then that “PhD thing” lurking somewhere, feeling slightly neglected. The topics are ones that I absolutely love and am passionate about, from coaching to leadership to personal development to entrepreneurship. In the courses, I love the students probably even more than the topics themselves. They are engaged, passionate about the learning and ways to make a difference in the larger picture, intelligent and creative, and also bring a healthy dose of challenge into our learning environments, just to make sure we (the faculty) don’t become too complacent. An ideal combination really.
:: “The Gods have two ways of dealing harshly with us. The first is to deny
:: us our dreams, and the second is to grant them.” - Oscar Wilde
And then, just as I am about to finish teaching one of the courses (only 24 more final papers to read and grade) and savour a bit of a quiet time, two more emails and two more teaching opportunities of the same topics that I love, with both the same and different universities. Great. Awesome. Cool. They keep knocking on the door. Wait. What about my other plans? I was thinking of taking a time out and breath. Damn. Now what do I do?
:: “I beg you... to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart
:: and try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or
:: books written in a very foreign language. Don't search for the answers,
:: which could not be given to you now because you would not be able to live
:: them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now.
:: Perhaps then someday far in the future you will gradually, without even
:: noticing it, live your way into the answer.” - Rainer Maria Rilke
The strong need and desire to know the answer, right now, is one that is all too common to many. Being in the unknown, in the mystery, in the place were we have no comfort of knowing past, present, and future - is not a place people are often looking forward to. We want to know, to be certain, to avoid that state of discomfort of not knowing, of not being seen as the expert, the one “who has it all together,” the one in control, the one comfortably in control. Here, having the right answer, right now, is everything.
Yet, life teaches us that there are no such places. At least, not for any substantial periods of time. A brief and fleeting moment, of seeming certainty, here and there, merely to tease and lure us into complacency. We relax, drop our defenses, stretch and breath deep. In that very moment, something changes, and we are thrown back into the mystery of the unknown.
Can there be too much of a good thing? Can it cause overwhelm? And if so, are we allowed – spiritually, karmically, metaphysically – to say NO to the Universe, when it (not an adequate descriptor, I know) keeps sending our way more and more of what we want? I mean, what if I say NO and the Universe will reply with, “OK, I guess you don’t want it any more, and so I am done with you. Black-booked for the next few reincarnations.” A scary thought.
:: “We do not have enough peace. Yet peace will never be attained by
:: perpetual action. Stirred water never has the chance to settle
:: clear. A tree buffeted by winds can never grow straight.”
:: - Deng Ming-Dao
And, by the way, in case you are still wondering - I said yes and I said no.
A sunny week to you all, inside and out.
:: Simon’s Reflections newsletter is published on a
:: bi-weekly basis and contains writings that touch
:: the heart, provoke the mind, and inspire action.
:: Your thoughts and comments are always welcome.
Simon
About: http://www.SimonGoland.com
Blog: http://www.SimonGoland.com/news
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13 December 2009
Voice Dialogue
Voice Dialogue Tips
December 2009
Email us: jcoroneos@bigpond.com
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Dear Participant
Welcome again to Hal & Sidra's Voice Dialogue Tips.
1. Health and Supersonalities Part 2 - For this month's Voice Dialogue Tips, we have the second of two new videos, in which Hal & Sidra share some fascinating insights about the Influence of Subpersonalities on Health. Here is the link http://www.bodymindinformation.com/health2-video.htm
Feel free to let me know what you think by emailing me at jcoroneos@bigpond.com
2. The Voice Dialogue DVD/CD Series - For delivery of your set before Xmas and the Holiday season, order immediately . Do you have any friends who may like the series as a gift? Visit http://www.bodymindinformation.com
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Dear Participant
Welcome again to Hal & Sidra's Voice Dialogue Tips.
1. Health and Supersonalities Part 2 - For this month's Voice Dialogue Tips, we have the second of two new videos, in which Hal & Sidra share some fascinating insights about the Influence of Subpersonalities on Health. Here is the link http://www.bodymindinformation.com/health2-video.htm
Feel free to let me know what you think by emailing me at jcoroneos@bigpond.com
2. The Voice Dialogue DVD/CD Series - For delivery of your set before Xmas and the Holiday season, order immediately . Do you have any friends who may like the series as a gift? Visit http://www.bodymindinformation.com
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Simon's Reflections
: Today’s Reflection is about the concept of “Accepting the Offer” which
: comes from the world of improv theatre. But not only from there.
There is always a reason for people to get the dogs they get. Perhaps other pets as well, though I would not know much about it. I do, however, know that it is absolutely true about dogs. We, so-called “dog owners,” get the absolutely perfect dog for us, whether to mirror something back to us, to teach us a lesson, or any other metaphysical reason. The Universe, it seems, is not without a sense of irony or humour.
When Tobi was a puppy, I was learning a lot about the reasons I was chosen for him. One day, in his early puppyhood years, a friend took him for a walk. When she came back, she said, “You know, Tobi is just like you.”
“Yes, I know.” Was my reply. “But what is it this time?”
“Well,” she said, “When you ask or tell him to do something, he will sit there, think about it for a while, and eventually will do it – completely in his own way.”
I knew that this is where she was totally wrong. At least, Tobi will eventually do it.
:: “Every time man makes a new experiment he always learns more.
:: He cannot learn less.” - Buckminster Fuller
Accepting the offer means opening up to receiving. It means not blocking the flow of whatever is happening in the moment. It means taking what comes your way with a Yes, and finding ways to build upon it. Yes it comes from the world of improv theatre and performing arts in general. Perhaps to get a sense of what it looks like in the improv world, check out “3 For ALL” on YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O3wRYqVK4mM). Accepting the offer, taking it in, and doing something with it to forward the energy and the flow of the moment creates a very different experience. Much like in life, everything remains in constant motion.
Yet, the world of performing arts is not the only playground for accepting the offer. They are everywhere around us, daily, crossing our path and checking our awareness, openness, and courage to notice, accept, and say Yes.
When the first Western anthropologists “discovered” the Shaolin temple (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shaolin_Temple), they were baffled. “How could these Buddhist monks, who are all about peace and kindness, be at the same time such incredible lethal killers?” the anthropologists thought. What they didn’t understand is that in the monk’s particular philosophy, everything that is given to them is a gift – and they have the right to accept or return it. So when a blow or a kick was delivered to them by their opponent, it was interpreted as “Thank you for the offer. I don’t think it belongs to me, so here it is back.”
:: “Did you tackle the trouble
:: that came your way
:: With a resolute heart and
:: cheerful?
:: Or hide your face from
:: the light of day
:: With a craven soul and fearful?
:: Oh, a trouble’s a ton, or
:: a trouble’s an ounce,
:: Or a trouble is what you make it.
:: And it isn’t the fact that you
:: hurt that counts,
:: But only how did you take it?”
:: -Edmund Vance Cooke
One of Tobi’s strongest gifts is that of welcoming and accepting strangers. I can only think of one situation where that was not the case; otherwise, he is always friendly, welcoming, and wagging to every person he comes across. Me, I am still learning this lesson, and have a way to go...
A sunny week to you all, inside and out.
:: Simon’s Reflections newsletter is published on a
:: bi-weekly basis and contains writings that touch
:: the heart, provoke the mind, and inspire action.
:: Your thoughts and comments are always welcome.
Simon
: comes from the world of improv theatre. But not only from there.
There is always a reason for people to get the dogs they get. Perhaps other pets as well, though I would not know much about it. I do, however, know that it is absolutely true about dogs. We, so-called “dog owners,” get the absolutely perfect dog for us, whether to mirror something back to us, to teach us a lesson, or any other metaphysical reason. The Universe, it seems, is not without a sense of irony or humour.
When Tobi was a puppy, I was learning a lot about the reasons I was chosen for him. One day, in his early puppyhood years, a friend took him for a walk. When she came back, she said, “You know, Tobi is just like you.”
“Yes, I know.” Was my reply. “But what is it this time?”
“Well,” she said, “When you ask or tell him to do something, he will sit there, think about it for a while, and eventually will do it – completely in his own way.”
I knew that this is where she was totally wrong. At least, Tobi will eventually do it.
:: “Every time man makes a new experiment he always learns more.
:: He cannot learn less.” - Buckminster Fuller
Accepting the offer means opening up to receiving. It means not blocking the flow of whatever is happening in the moment. It means taking what comes your way with a Yes, and finding ways to build upon it. Yes it comes from the world of improv theatre and performing arts in general. Perhaps to get a sense of what it looks like in the improv world, check out “3 For ALL” on YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O3wRYqVK4mM). Accepting the offer, taking it in, and doing something with it to forward the energy and the flow of the moment creates a very different experience. Much like in life, everything remains in constant motion.
Yet, the world of performing arts is not the only playground for accepting the offer. They are everywhere around us, daily, crossing our path and checking our awareness, openness, and courage to notice, accept, and say Yes.
When the first Western anthropologists “discovered” the Shaolin temple (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shaolin_Temple), they were baffled. “How could these Buddhist monks, who are all about peace and kindness, be at the same time such incredible lethal killers?” the anthropologists thought. What they didn’t understand is that in the monk’s particular philosophy, everything that is given to them is a gift – and they have the right to accept or return it. So when a blow or a kick was delivered to them by their opponent, it was interpreted as “Thank you for the offer. I don’t think it belongs to me, so here it is back.”
:: “Did you tackle the trouble
:: that came your way
:: With a resolute heart and
:: cheerful?
:: Or hide your face from
:: the light of day
:: With a craven soul and fearful?
:: Oh, a trouble’s a ton, or
:: a trouble’s an ounce,
:: Or a trouble is what you make it.
:: And it isn’t the fact that you
:: hurt that counts,
:: But only how did you take it?”
:: -Edmund Vance Cooke
One of Tobi’s strongest gifts is that of welcoming and accepting strangers. I can only think of one situation where that was not the case; otherwise, he is always friendly, welcoming, and wagging to every person he comes across. Me, I am still learning this lesson, and have a way to go...
A sunny week to you all, inside and out.
:: Simon’s Reflections newsletter is published on a
:: bi-weekly basis and contains writings that touch
:: the heart, provoke the mind, and inspire action.
:: Your thoughts and comments are always welcome.
Simon
23 September 2009
Voice Dialogue Tips
Voice Dialogue Tips
September 2009
Email us: jcoroneos@bigpond.com
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Dear Viewer,
Welcome again to Hal & Sidra's Voice Dialogue Tips.
1. This month is the final part in our series of articles titled " The Top Ten Challenges to Relationship: Keeping Your Love Alive Amid Life's Routines " Challenge 10: Maintaining a “Perfect” Relationship
2. Good News: The New 90 minute Cinema Film by Michael Rowland and Dr John Coroneos, ‘Being in Heaven' , about Awakening More of the Natural Power of Your Mind and Accessing Higher States of Consciousness
Only one week to release! Come to the launch and party in Byron Bay, Australia!
The launch is at the Dendy Cinema, Byron Bay, Australia at 4.00 pm, Sunday the 27th of September. All Welcome, but first come first served.
Tickets on sale now at The Dendy, Byron Bay Cinema, or phone 02 6680 8555.
The Top Ten Challenges to Relationship:
Keeping Your Love Alive Amid Life's Routines
(an excerpt from Dr Hal & Sidra Stone's book titled "Partnering")
Challenge 10: Maintaining a “Perfect” Relationship
Sometimes we work too hard to keep everything in our relationships perfect. We try to see eye-to-eye with our partners on all matters, we are impeccably empathic and understanding of one another, there are no problems, everything is wonderful, we are always linked energetically, we are indeed blessed, and we do everything together all the time. We put all of our energies into keeping the partnership trouble free and do our best to ignore any feelings of discomfort. The rule we hold in our minds is something like “in a really good relationship, everything runs smoothly, both partners always agree with each other, and they never separate but always do everything together.” Unfortunately, when we try to keep the relationship perfect in this way, we actually break the connection between our partners and ourselves because anything that does not work smoothly is ignored and too much gets left out.
Since relationships naturally ebb and flow and life is not always wonderful, perfection is not exactly an attainable objective. As a matter of fact, if this goal is attained and there is never any friction, we might suspect that something is being overlooked. This does not mean that relationships are always a mass of difficulties. What it does mean is (1) people are different and have different needs, (2) two partners invariably experience some areas of disconnection, disagreement, or misunderstanding, and (3) there is always a need for some separation as well as a need for togetherness.
This is why it is so important to be able to include in the partnering relationship some space for the consideration of what is not working either in the relationship or in your life. If you were running a business and you never looked at what did not work, you might find yourself in deep trouble. For instance, you run a freight service. Everybody knows that you only like good news, so no one tells you that there is a small knocking sound in the refrigerated truck that does your long distance runs. If you knew about it, you could have the problem fixed. But you do not find out about it because nobody wants to bring you the bad news and they tell themselves that since it is only a small knocking sound, it is probably not very important. So the truck breaks down in the middle of the desert with a full load of perishable lettuce.
It is the “small knocking sounds” that tell us what could be improved upon, what could grow into a problem, or what needs fixing. We all need time — and permission — to look at what is not working in our lives and in the relationship. In the partnering model of relationship, it is accepted that each partner can, and will, bring to the conference table “reports” of what is not currently working. This is not a gripe session any more than a business meeting to review the workings of a business is a gripe session.
What might you bring to the table? You would bring your dissatisfactions with your partner or your life. This might include talking about your attractions to others, attractions that pull you away from the relationship. You might include your fantasies, such as opening a new business, or having another baby, or running away to Fiji. You might talk of your fears about money, work, health, or even about the relationship. You might talk about your discomfort with always being together and express your need for time alone, or for a space in the house that is just yours. All these issues keep us from becoming too complacent or stuck in old patterns that no longer suit us, they all open doors into new thoughts and new possibilities.
We feel that it is important to have time set aside to look at these matters. It is not necessary to be formal about this, after all you are not running a business, but it is important to keep current. Keeping current with dissatisfactions or negative feelings (1) helps us to keep the connection with our partners alive, even if the connection is not pleasant at that very moment, (2) prevents a backlog of complaints from building up, and (3) helps us to deal with matters creatively and quickly. We fix the truck before it breaks down. That is what partners are for.
Each partner notices something different and contributes something unique to the partnership. You may become irritated when your partner gets too preoccupied with work and ignores you. Your partner may become irritated with you because you did not follow up on the business opportunity that presented itself last week. You may be great at noticing when the car needs repairing and your partner may be great at noticing when the bank accounts are getting too low. You can see how partnering as a model for relationship brings us the possibilities of using our full human potential as a powerful team.
Meeting the Challenges
The basic theme in all ten challenges is the underlying challenge to maintain the connection in your primary relationship. Most of the time this connection will be pleasant, but there are times, when you are dealing with unpleasant matters, when it will be a bit uncomfortable.
What must you do on a day-to-day basis to maintain the connection to your partner? First, you must make your relationship — and this connection — a priority. All the challenges mentioned in this chapter have a single common element. Each of them threatens to replace your relationship as a priority.
Second, when you feel uncomfortable with your partner or the relationship, or when you sense your connection weakening, don't ignore your feelings. This is a warning, it is like a fire alarm going off. You may be tempted to think that the alarm is faulty and you may wish to turn if off because you can't bear the sound, you don't see any smoke, and you're too busy to go looking for trouble. But pay attention. There is a gift of disowned energy somewhere in this discomfort.
The third, and perhaps the most important, ingredient in the recipe for a healthy, intimate, and loving relationship is time. The best way to meet all the challenges to relationship is to take time for one another and for your partnership. You cannot run a business without giving it proper time and attention, and you cannot expect to have a successful relationship without doing likewise. Take time for meetings, for work, for play, and for passion. Take time to be happy with each other and time to be irritated with each other. Take time to look at what works and makes you feel just great and time to listen to the small knocking sounds in your relationship and your lives that will tell you what doesn't work. Take time to enjoy today and time to plan and to dream about tomorrow. Take time to hang out, just to be and not to do anything at all.
Most of all, take time away from the daily distractions and challenges we've been talking about to establish and to keep the delicious energetic linkage between you and your partner. It's a good idea to make regular plans to break your daily routine and get re-acquainted. These breaks can take any form, so be creative.
If partners can keep their linkage, they will keep their relationship. Anything that breaks this linkage can damage the relationship. No matter how sensible, worthwhile, or absolutely necessary the distraction seems to be, it should be handled with great care and not allowed to break the essential connection between partners. It is very easy to ruin even a good relationship. It is also very easy, once we know about linkage, to preserve a good relationship and to make it even better. So go for the linkage, and good luck!
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September 2009
Email us: jcoroneos@bigpond.com
Web Site: www.bodymindinformation.com
Tell A Friend
Dear Viewer,
Welcome again to Hal & Sidra's Voice Dialogue Tips.
1. This month is the final part in our series of articles titled " The Top Ten Challenges to Relationship: Keeping Your Love Alive Amid Life's Routines " Challenge 10: Maintaining a “Perfect” Relationship
2. Good News: The New 90 minute Cinema Film by Michael Rowland and Dr John Coroneos, ‘Being in Heaven' , about Awakening More of the Natural Power of Your Mind and Accessing Higher States of Consciousness
Only one week to release! Come to the launch and party in Byron Bay, Australia!
The launch is at the Dendy Cinema, Byron Bay, Australia at 4.00 pm, Sunday the 27th of September. All Welcome, but first come first served.
Tickets on sale now at The Dendy, Byron Bay Cinema, or phone 02 6680 8555.
The Top Ten Challenges to Relationship:
Keeping Your Love Alive Amid Life's Routines
(an excerpt from Dr Hal & Sidra Stone's book titled "Partnering")
Challenge 10: Maintaining a “Perfect” Relationship
Sometimes we work too hard to keep everything in our relationships perfect. We try to see eye-to-eye with our partners on all matters, we are impeccably empathic and understanding of one another, there are no problems, everything is wonderful, we are always linked energetically, we are indeed blessed, and we do everything together all the time. We put all of our energies into keeping the partnership trouble free and do our best to ignore any feelings of discomfort. The rule we hold in our minds is something like “in a really good relationship, everything runs smoothly, both partners always agree with each other, and they never separate but always do everything together.” Unfortunately, when we try to keep the relationship perfect in this way, we actually break the connection between our partners and ourselves because anything that does not work smoothly is ignored and too much gets left out.
Since relationships naturally ebb and flow and life is not always wonderful, perfection is not exactly an attainable objective. As a matter of fact, if this goal is attained and there is never any friction, we might suspect that something is being overlooked. This does not mean that relationships are always a mass of difficulties. What it does mean is (1) people are different and have different needs, (2) two partners invariably experience some areas of disconnection, disagreement, or misunderstanding, and (3) there is always a need for some separation as well as a need for togetherness.
This is why it is so important to be able to include in the partnering relationship some space for the consideration of what is not working either in the relationship or in your life. If you were running a business and you never looked at what did not work, you might find yourself in deep trouble. For instance, you run a freight service. Everybody knows that you only like good news, so no one tells you that there is a small knocking sound in the refrigerated truck that does your long distance runs. If you knew about it, you could have the problem fixed. But you do not find out about it because nobody wants to bring you the bad news and they tell themselves that since it is only a small knocking sound, it is probably not very important. So the truck breaks down in the middle of the desert with a full load of perishable lettuce.
It is the “small knocking sounds” that tell us what could be improved upon, what could grow into a problem, or what needs fixing. We all need time — and permission — to look at what is not working in our lives and in the relationship. In the partnering model of relationship, it is accepted that each partner can, and will, bring to the conference table “reports” of what is not currently working. This is not a gripe session any more than a business meeting to review the workings of a business is a gripe session.
What might you bring to the table? You would bring your dissatisfactions with your partner or your life. This might include talking about your attractions to others, attractions that pull you away from the relationship. You might include your fantasies, such as opening a new business, or having another baby, or running away to Fiji. You might talk of your fears about money, work, health, or even about the relationship. You might talk about your discomfort with always being together and express your need for time alone, or for a space in the house that is just yours. All these issues keep us from becoming too complacent or stuck in old patterns that no longer suit us, they all open doors into new thoughts and new possibilities.
We feel that it is important to have time set aside to look at these matters. It is not necessary to be formal about this, after all you are not running a business, but it is important to keep current. Keeping current with dissatisfactions or negative feelings (1) helps us to keep the connection with our partners alive, even if the connection is not pleasant at that very moment, (2) prevents a backlog of complaints from building up, and (3) helps us to deal with matters creatively and quickly. We fix the truck before it breaks down. That is what partners are for.
Each partner notices something different and contributes something unique to the partnership. You may become irritated when your partner gets too preoccupied with work and ignores you. Your partner may become irritated with you because you did not follow up on the business opportunity that presented itself last week. You may be great at noticing when the car needs repairing and your partner may be great at noticing when the bank accounts are getting too low. You can see how partnering as a model for relationship brings us the possibilities of using our full human potential as a powerful team.
Meeting the Challenges
The basic theme in all ten challenges is the underlying challenge to maintain the connection in your primary relationship. Most of the time this connection will be pleasant, but there are times, when you are dealing with unpleasant matters, when it will be a bit uncomfortable.
What must you do on a day-to-day basis to maintain the connection to your partner? First, you must make your relationship — and this connection — a priority. All the challenges mentioned in this chapter have a single common element. Each of them threatens to replace your relationship as a priority.
Second, when you feel uncomfortable with your partner or the relationship, or when you sense your connection weakening, don't ignore your feelings. This is a warning, it is like a fire alarm going off. You may be tempted to think that the alarm is faulty and you may wish to turn if off because you can't bear the sound, you don't see any smoke, and you're too busy to go looking for trouble. But pay attention. There is a gift of disowned energy somewhere in this discomfort.
The third, and perhaps the most important, ingredient in the recipe for a healthy, intimate, and loving relationship is time. The best way to meet all the challenges to relationship is to take time for one another and for your partnership. You cannot run a business without giving it proper time and attention, and you cannot expect to have a successful relationship without doing likewise. Take time for meetings, for work, for play, and for passion. Take time to be happy with each other and time to be irritated with each other. Take time to look at what works and makes you feel just great and time to listen to the small knocking sounds in your relationship and your lives that will tell you what doesn't work. Take time to enjoy today and time to plan and to dream about tomorrow. Take time to hang out, just to be and not to do anything at all.
Most of all, take time away from the daily distractions and challenges we've been talking about to establish and to keep the delicious energetic linkage between you and your partner. It's a good idea to make regular plans to break your daily routine and get re-acquainted. These breaks can take any form, so be creative.
If partners can keep their linkage, they will keep their relationship. Anything that breaks this linkage can damage the relationship. No matter how sensible, worthwhile, or absolutely necessary the distraction seems to be, it should be handled with great care and not allowed to break the essential connection between partners. It is very easy to ruin even a good relationship. It is also very easy, once we know about linkage, to preserve a good relationship and to make it even better. So go for the linkage, and good luck!
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01 September 2009
Vacation, Nature, and our human ways of being...
: Today’s Reflection is about a vacation, Nature, and our human ways of being
: in, and with, the world around us.
It is early morning, and I am sitting on the beach of Mussel Beach Campground, which is on the very West Coast of Vancouver Island, hidden behind Ucluelet, yet right on the ocean. While there are a few other people in the campsite, they are all asleep, and so it feels as though the whole place belongs to me. And Tobi. And the crows and seagulls. The clouds and the rain of last night are moving away, and the sun is making its shy - yet persistent - appearance. It is time of low tide, yet the waves make sure I know they are not too far away. Nothing like going to sleep, and waking up, with their sound in the background.
When I am present with these magical surroundings around me, it is easy to feel in-tune with myself and with the world; the world which David Abram calls the "more-than human community." Everything feels alive, co-existing, and participating in that mysterious game called life. In what seems to be a very appropriate setting, I am reading an interview with David Abram, author of a gem of a book, "The spell of the sensuous," conducted by Derrick Jensen. Here, on the beach and deeply immersed in Nature, it resonates strongly with me. What follows are a few excerpts, interspersed with some of my thoughts about us, humans.
"But the sleight-of-hand magician is one who can startle the senses out of the slumber induced by such obsolete ways of speaking [where we have been culturally brainwashed to speak of other animals' behaviour as "programmed" in their genes and nothing there is even remotely close to "consciousness"]. By making a coin vanish from one hand and appear under your foot, making a stone float between his hands or a silk scarf change its colours, the magician wakes up that old, animistic awareness of objects as living, animate entities with their own styles and secrets; he coaxes our senses to engage the strangeness of things once again."
After all, for the largest and longest part of our species' existence, humans have negotiated relationships with every aspect of our environments, exchanging possibilities with every form, entity, and being around us. All could communicate, though not in language (as we use right now), and we could understand and reply - whether with sounds, movements, thoughts, or minute shifts of mood. And from all of these relationships with our environment, all were collectively nourished.
"So much of research, today, seems motivated less by a sense of wonder than by a great will-to-control. It's a mark of immaturity, I think, a sign that our science is still in its adolescence. A more mature science would be motivated by a wish for a richer relationship, for deeper reciprocity with the world that we study."
"In our culture we speak about nature a great deal. Mature cultures speak to nature. They feel the rest of nature speak to them."
"If we want to actually start noticing where we are, and finding ourselves in a better relation with the rest of the earth around us, the simplest and most elegant way I know of is simply to stop insulting everything around us by speaking of them as passive objects, and instead begin to allow things their own spontaneity, their own life. As soon as you start speaking in such a way, you start noticing things a hell of a lot more. You suddenly find yourself in a dynamic relationship with all the things around you, including the air you breathe, the chair you are sitting on, the house in which you live. You find yourself negotiating relationships all the time. And you realize that ethics is not something to be practiced only with other humans - that all of our actions have ethical consequences."
An interesting point here is to look into our common literature. There, if we look carefully, we will notice a very subtle, yet all-prevalent taboo, preventing us from assigning any consciousness to any being other that human. It shows in the fact that there are very few books where an animal, for example, is a 'he' or a 'she.' For the most part, the animal (even the "man's best friend") is an 'it.' An object, and not a live being, with feelings, thoughts, desires, awareness. When such a perspective is adopted without ever questioning it, David's words ring even stronger.
"Once we reduce our input to everything being mediated by humans, we are essentially in an echo chamber, and we begin to hallucinate. We are sensory deprived, because we are not getting the variety of sensory stimulation we need."
And that becomes a form of solitary confinement, where we find ourselves cut off from a full range of relationships, existing in a world in which none of the other beings are acknowledged as sentient or aware. Which allows us the only possible relationships with other humans; after all, one cannot enter into a dynamic relationship with an object.
Yet, every human community is nested within a more-than-human community of beings.
"The animate earth around us - this land swept by the wind and pounded by rain - is far more lovely than any heaven we can dream up. But to awaken to this awesome beauty we must give up our spectator perspective, and the illusion of control that it gives us, in order to gaze out at the world from within its own depths. This is, alas, a terrifying move for most over-civilized folks today - because to renounce control is to notice that we are vulnerable: to suffering, to loss, to disease, to death. But also that we are vulnerable to purest joy. The wild world to which our senses give us access is an inexhaustibly beautiful realm, but it is hardly safe - it is filled with shifting shadows, and is plenty dangerous. ... We can't master it - never have, never will. What we can do is participate in the life of this breathing world far more deeply and creatively than we have these past few thousand years."
A sunny week to you all, inside and out.
:: Simon’s Reflections newsletter is published on a
:: bi-weekly basis and contains writings that touch
:: the heart, provoke the mind, and inspire action.
:: Your thoughts and comments are always welcome.
Simon
: in, and with, the world around us.
It is early morning, and I am sitting on the beach of Mussel Beach Campground, which is on the very West Coast of Vancouver Island, hidden behind Ucluelet, yet right on the ocean. While there are a few other people in the campsite, they are all asleep, and so it feels as though the whole place belongs to me. And Tobi. And the crows and seagulls. The clouds and the rain of last night are moving away, and the sun is making its shy - yet persistent - appearance. It is time of low tide, yet the waves make sure I know they are not too far away. Nothing like going to sleep, and waking up, with their sound in the background.
When I am present with these magical surroundings around me, it is easy to feel in-tune with myself and with the world; the world which David Abram calls the "more-than human community." Everything feels alive, co-existing, and participating in that mysterious game called life. In what seems to be a very appropriate setting, I am reading an interview with David Abram, author of a gem of a book, "The spell of the sensuous," conducted by Derrick Jensen. Here, on the beach and deeply immersed in Nature, it resonates strongly with me. What follows are a few excerpts, interspersed with some of my thoughts about us, humans.
"But the sleight-of-hand magician is one who can startle the senses out of the slumber induced by such obsolete ways of speaking [where we have been culturally brainwashed to speak of other animals' behaviour as "programmed" in their genes and nothing there is even remotely close to "consciousness"]. By making a coin vanish from one hand and appear under your foot, making a stone float between his hands or a silk scarf change its colours, the magician wakes up that old, animistic awareness of objects as living, animate entities with their own styles and secrets; he coaxes our senses to engage the strangeness of things once again."
After all, for the largest and longest part of our species' existence, humans have negotiated relationships with every aspect of our environments, exchanging possibilities with every form, entity, and being around us. All could communicate, though not in language (as we use right now), and we could understand and reply - whether with sounds, movements, thoughts, or minute shifts of mood. And from all of these relationships with our environment, all were collectively nourished.
"So much of research, today, seems motivated less by a sense of wonder than by a great will-to-control. It's a mark of immaturity, I think, a sign that our science is still in its adolescence. A more mature science would be motivated by a wish for a richer relationship, for deeper reciprocity with the world that we study."
"In our culture we speak about nature a great deal. Mature cultures speak to nature. They feel the rest of nature speak to them."
"If we want to actually start noticing where we are, and finding ourselves in a better relation with the rest of the earth around us, the simplest and most elegant way I know of is simply to stop insulting everything around us by speaking of them as passive objects, and instead begin to allow things their own spontaneity, their own life. As soon as you start speaking in such a way, you start noticing things a hell of a lot more. You suddenly find yourself in a dynamic relationship with all the things around you, including the air you breathe, the chair you are sitting on, the house in which you live. You find yourself negotiating relationships all the time. And you realize that ethics is not something to be practiced only with other humans - that all of our actions have ethical consequences."
An interesting point here is to look into our common literature. There, if we look carefully, we will notice a very subtle, yet all-prevalent taboo, preventing us from assigning any consciousness to any being other that human. It shows in the fact that there are very few books where an animal, for example, is a 'he' or a 'she.' For the most part, the animal (even the "man's best friend") is an 'it.' An object, and not a live being, with feelings, thoughts, desires, awareness. When such a perspective is adopted without ever questioning it, David's words ring even stronger.
"Once we reduce our input to everything being mediated by humans, we are essentially in an echo chamber, and we begin to hallucinate. We are sensory deprived, because we are not getting the variety of sensory stimulation we need."
And that becomes a form of solitary confinement, where we find ourselves cut off from a full range of relationships, existing in a world in which none of the other beings are acknowledged as sentient or aware. Which allows us the only possible relationships with other humans; after all, one cannot enter into a dynamic relationship with an object.
Yet, every human community is nested within a more-than-human community of beings.
"The animate earth around us - this land swept by the wind and pounded by rain - is far more lovely than any heaven we can dream up. But to awaken to this awesome beauty we must give up our spectator perspective, and the illusion of control that it gives us, in order to gaze out at the world from within its own depths. This is, alas, a terrifying move for most over-civilized folks today - because to renounce control is to notice that we are vulnerable: to suffering, to loss, to disease, to death. But also that we are vulnerable to purest joy. The wild world to which our senses give us access is an inexhaustibly beautiful realm, but it is hardly safe - it is filled with shifting shadows, and is plenty dangerous. ... We can't master it - never have, never will. What we can do is participate in the life of this breathing world far more deeply and creatively than we have these past few thousand years."
A sunny week to you all, inside and out.
:: Simon’s Reflections newsletter is published on a
:: bi-weekly basis and contains writings that touch
:: the heart, provoke the mind, and inspire action.
:: Your thoughts and comments are always welcome.
Simon
15 August 2009
Today’s Reflection is about a paradox, a duality
Today’s Reflection is about a paradox, a duality, and a way of being with no easy or immediate answers.
A beautiful summer day at the Hollyhock retreat on Cortes Island. Sun, Nature at its best, stunning Caribbean-looking beach, delicious vegetarian food. Seemingly, a little paradise.
A group of about a 115 social and environmental activists, visionaries, artists, and change agents have come together for a 5-day Summer Gathering event, to talk about what is going on in the world right now, to connect and reconnect, to find out what each other is doing to make a difference, and to explore ways to ensure we will have a future for the next generations to come. There is a lot of excitement in the air. People bring their passion, inspiration, and authenticity forward, through conversations, presentations, music, dance, and celebration of the Gathering.
:: “For as long as we've been around as humans, as wandering bands of nomads
:: or cave dwellers, we have sat together and shared experiences. We've
:: painted images on rock walls, recounted dreams and visions, told stories
:: of the day, and generally felt comforted to be in the world together. When
:: the world became fearsome, we came together. When the world called us to
:: explore its edges, we journeyed together. Whatever we did, we did it
:: together.” - Margaret Wheatley
Yet, not everything is rosy in this little paradise. Some of the conversations and presentations focused on the immediate dangers to the planet, mainly from global warming (though it is clearly only one of the many dangers we are currently facing). Some of the numbers are scary, and bring about a sense of immediate urgency of the need for radical, drastic, and painful shift in our lifestyles. Thus, together with the inspiration and the positive beat, the other side is strongly present as well - of hopelessness, despair, pain, and tears; all freely expressed, accepted, and embraced. There are times when words cannot adequately express such emotions, and a deep and painful cry, from the bottom of the soul, is the only way to capture the essence of what is going on inside.
:: “If you are not sure where you are Headed, make sure you know where you
:: are Hearted.” - Philip Clement
Yet another paradox, duality of a state of being - despair and hope, pain and joy, darkness and love, coexisting together within a person, and the gathering as a whole. There are no easy answers. Perhaps there are no answers at all. The need to be with both extremes, to accept the reality, to feel the magnitude of the despair, yet not let it stop or prevent anyone from doing what needs to be done is a lesson for many to embrace. Healing starts from acknowledging the pain first.
Despite, or perhaps because, of all that happened, I am coming back rejuvenated. I felt the pain and the despair (still do) of our current reality, which I think was one of the things that allowed me to feel the other extreme as well. Knowing that others have been there too, yet still continue doing their work, is an incredible gift that I hold as a precious and inspiring knowing.
John, over to you...
Imagine there's no heaven.
It's easy if you try.
No Hell below us;
Above us only sky.
Imagine all the people
Living for today....
Imagine there's no countries.
It isn't hard to do.
Nothing to kill or die for;
And no religion, too.
Imagine all the people
Living life in peace...
You may say I'm a dreamer,
But I'm not the only one.
I hope some day you'll join us,
And the world will be as one.
Imagine no possessions.
I wonder if you can.
No need for greed or hunger;
A brotherhood of man.
Imagine all the people
Sharing all the world....
You may say I'm a dreamer,
But I'm not the only one.
I hope some day you will join us,
And the world will be as one.
A sunny week to you all, inside and out.
:: Simon’s Reflections newsletter is published on a
:: bi-weekly basis and contains writings that touch
:: the heart, provoke the mind, and inspire action.
:: Your thoughts and comments are always welcome.
A beautiful summer day at the Hollyhock retreat on Cortes Island. Sun, Nature at its best, stunning Caribbean-looking beach, delicious vegetarian food. Seemingly, a little paradise.
A group of about a 115 social and environmental activists, visionaries, artists, and change agents have come together for a 5-day Summer Gathering event, to talk about what is going on in the world right now, to connect and reconnect, to find out what each other is doing to make a difference, and to explore ways to ensure we will have a future for the next generations to come. There is a lot of excitement in the air. People bring their passion, inspiration, and authenticity forward, through conversations, presentations, music, dance, and celebration of the Gathering.
:: “For as long as we've been around as humans, as wandering bands of nomads
:: or cave dwellers, we have sat together and shared experiences. We've
:: painted images on rock walls, recounted dreams and visions, told stories
:: of the day, and generally felt comforted to be in the world together. When
:: the world became fearsome, we came together. When the world called us to
:: explore its edges, we journeyed together. Whatever we did, we did it
:: together.” - Margaret Wheatley
Yet, not everything is rosy in this little paradise. Some of the conversations and presentations focused on the immediate dangers to the planet, mainly from global warming (though it is clearly only one of the many dangers we are currently facing). Some of the numbers are scary, and bring about a sense of immediate urgency of the need for radical, drastic, and painful shift in our lifestyles. Thus, together with the inspiration and the positive beat, the other side is strongly present as well - of hopelessness, despair, pain, and tears; all freely expressed, accepted, and embraced. There are times when words cannot adequately express such emotions, and a deep and painful cry, from the bottom of the soul, is the only way to capture the essence of what is going on inside.
:: “If you are not sure where you are Headed, make sure you know where you
:: are Hearted.” - Philip Clement
Yet another paradox, duality of a state of being - despair and hope, pain and joy, darkness and love, coexisting together within a person, and the gathering as a whole. There are no easy answers. Perhaps there are no answers at all. The need to be with both extremes, to accept the reality, to feel the magnitude of the despair, yet not let it stop or prevent anyone from doing what needs to be done is a lesson for many to embrace. Healing starts from acknowledging the pain first.
Despite, or perhaps because, of all that happened, I am coming back rejuvenated. I felt the pain and the despair (still do) of our current reality, which I think was one of the things that allowed me to feel the other extreme as well. Knowing that others have been there too, yet still continue doing their work, is an incredible gift that I hold as a precious and inspiring knowing.
John, over to you...
Imagine there's no heaven.
It's easy if you try.
No Hell below us;
Above us only sky.
Imagine all the people
Living for today....
Imagine there's no countries.
It isn't hard to do.
Nothing to kill or die for;
And no religion, too.
Imagine all the people
Living life in peace...
You may say I'm a dreamer,
But I'm not the only one.
I hope some day you'll join us,
And the world will be as one.
Imagine no possessions.
I wonder if you can.
No need for greed or hunger;
A brotherhood of man.
Imagine all the people
Sharing all the world....
You may say I'm a dreamer,
But I'm not the only one.
I hope some day you will join us,
And the world will be as one.
A sunny week to you all, inside and out.
:: Simon’s Reflections newsletter is published on a
:: bi-weekly basis and contains writings that touch
:: the heart, provoke the mind, and inspire action.
:: Your thoughts and comments are always welcome.
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